So I’ve taken quite the liking to Riley Green lately. Turns out, we’re kinda related, but not really. Actually, not at all, sigh. He’s my brothers cousin, but my brother and I don’t have the same dad.
So I can totally marry him, right?!?! Ha! I may be from Alabama, but not that part.
But while we’re on the subject of marriage, I suppose this is the perfect opportunity to chat about why I’m waiting. And why I owe several local brunette women a beer.
There was this man that I thought hung the moon. I knew he didn’t literally hang the moon, and I suppose in my best Jeff Foxworthy voice, “there’s your sign”. I didn’t take the hint, and I paid for it for years.
A girlfriend and I were chatting a couple of nights ago and we got on the subject of “women who stay”, and how she never would. Being vague, I tossed small tidbits into the convo of reasons why some do, but she wasn’t having it. She’s a bad bitch tho!!! I literally pray that she rubs off on me daily. C, if you’re reading this, you’re a QUEEN!
Long story short, that relationship ended and I was devastated. Instead of taking time to heal, I went to dinner with B a couple of weeks later, and we were inseparable from then on. You know that SATC quote that says “No one pays for your last relationship except the one in your new one”? Well, poor B found that to ring very true. I put him through hell the first year, bless his heart. But he stayed, I eventually let go of the past, and nearly 5 years later, here we are!
We have the best time together, and truly love and trust each other, it just took me a while to get there. It was hard for me to open my eyes and realize that all of those women didn’t hurt me, they helped me. If it weren’t for them, I’d probably have never stayed gone. My real anger shouldn’t have been channeled toward them anyway, but rather that stupid boy and myself for tolerating it.
So if you’re one of the many middle-aged brunette women who liked to whore around about 5 years ago, hit me up! Let me buy ‘ya a beer, I owe you at least that! And girl, you most likely need it.
As far as marriage for B and I, we talk about it, but don’t feel the rush, ‘ya know? There are things that I want to do on my own, and he understands and supports that. For instance, I’d like to get my student loans paid off so I’m not bringing debt into a marriage. I’d like to figure out what I really want to do career-wise before moving on to the next step of our relationship. In a nutshell, I’ve got to get my shit together before even thinking about building a healthy marriage. So for now, we’re just gonna keep on keeping on, and we’re both comfortable with that.
Photography by Jaimie Sweeten